Thursday, May 25, 2017

Self Will Or God's Will

     The importance of Step Three is that a decision is made (in fact it is a final choice) for our thought process to no longer be propelled by our human instincts (our self will) but rather by the will of God through inspiration.  Inspiration is defined as, "the thoughts of God implanted in the mind and soul of man."
            The Third Step is, "We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him."  In the Big Book Alcoholics Anonymous in the chapter "How It Works" it states, "The first requirement (in taking the Third Step) is that we be convinced that any life run on self will can hardly be a success." As stated prior to this, "Remember that we deal with alcohol, cunning, baffling, powerful.  Without help it is to much for us.  But there is One who has all power -that One is God. May you find Him now!"  The chapter goes further in stating, "Selfishness - self-centerednes! That, we think, is the root of our troubles... So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of  self will run riot..."  Self will is our thought process propelled by our human instincts. In the Big Book it says "above everything we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness and there seems no way of entirely getting rid of self without His aid."
                 I learned in the program of Alcoholics Anonymous that we have three basic instincts, a social, sexual and security instinct.  These instincts are God given and necessary for life but in us we can never get enough of what it is we think we need .  The great psychiatrist Sigmund Freud defines an instinct as "a bodily need manifested in our thought process."  It is there that our character defects exist - but these same defects, which will always exist to some extent in our human nature, cannot possibly be manifested in our behavior when our thought process is propelled by God's will, through inspiration.

Written by Armand

8 comments:

  1. My personal experience has shown me that my former version of "turning it over" was manifested by using the Third Step as a shortcut to "acting as if." For years, I kept turning it over, taking it back, re-turning it over,re-taking it back ad nauseam. My sponsor cracked the code for me when he recovery-defined the word "decision" as a "final choice"!That choice was to turn my will which is my thinking and my life which is my behavior over the the care of the remaining Steps in the program of recovery.One day at a time. Period. Beginning of story! In and through that process, I was enabled to find what I'd been looking for my entire life - me. How? Through a personal relationship with The Power Within me, and within all of us. Life-changer,lifesaver, spirit-igniter, the path (in Chapter Five) to be thoroughly followed. A new attitude, new outlook, new people, new possibilities, new and golden gifts. It was in The Eleventh Step that I understood the full impact of Step Three. The result of that "final choice" was and is the conscious contact which makes me whole. Whole enough to be given away.

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    1. Michael the choice necessary to recover from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body is that our thought process will no longer be propelled by our human instinct but rather by the will of God...Thank you...Armand

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  2. Step 3 is the difference between me living in self will as the actor arranging the lights the ballet and the scenery but what happens the play does not come off and I can draw similarities in my life when it is propelled by self will it leads to a tension where I am trying to wrestle satisfaction from life if I only manage well. When I do as the program 'suggests' and instead live in Gods will it all goes much more smoothly and that feeling of tension disappears. It's the difference between the head and logic and the heart and the spiritual life. I know which one I prefer but in order to lead life according to Gods will I have to work on this every day.

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    1. Anne love the idea of tension through live lived in self will versus a life without tension in the will of God...Thank you...Armand

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  3. To me, both human instincts and the spiritual life are both gifts from God. Where I got into serious trouble when I allowed my human instincts to seize control over my spiritual way of living. It took for me a complete meltdown of my human instincts as a way of living to seek relief from the insanity. I want to live in God's will today only because I could no longer do so on my own. That may not be a good reason, but being on the narrow path has been a drastically improved way of life. Truly I was given the grace to be born again.

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    1. jim as the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous Says ' we were beaten into a state of reasonableness." It is a pretty drastic decision that is made in Step Three but made because it was our only choice if we were to be free of our self imposed misery...Thank you...Armand

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  4. This Comment Is From A Gratefully Recovering Alcoholic

    s Step's 1 & 2 imply, the initial catalyst for reaching out to the God of my understanding was absolute desperation in that I had exhausted every other known earthly option or avenue that would, or could, extricate me from the self imposed dilemma of my dreadful situation and the consequences thereof. I had deliberately chosen to live a life in direct opposition to the known will of God whenever my unsated appetites beckoned and finding myself, by my own design, on the precipice of an eternity staring squarely into the bows of a continuous living hell.

    This time there was no employment of my well honed negotiating skills. No shallow foxhole prayers, only to immediately fall back to my alcohol fueled journey into debauchery once the immediate crisis had passed. This time was different. This alcoholic knew it was an ignominious and eternal death or complete surrender. And as I later learned; that revelation, like a white hot lightning bolt that burst into the core of my being, was a gift from a Loving Father that had not, and will not ever give up on me.

    My entire life of rebellion was instantaneously revealed in space and time. Yet, immersed in that encounter with the God of all Eternity was a love and compassion beyond telling. He wasn't asking for all that I was willing to surrender at that time, but the one thing I still wished to hold back.. Yet, as Jesus lovingly beckoned I finally, fatefully spiritually collapsed and surrendered the one thing that had always stood in the way of my redemption, me...

    As I pored my life out at His feet, all of the guilt and shame associated with my past was immediately washed away. I was, in the most profound sense reborn. From that point on following the Steps was assured. Not easy... but assured, and has, together with study and inspired implementation of His Word brought me into a time of refreshment and joy of living that is well beyond my wildest dreams. Today, life is a bountiful continuous lyric of "Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound, that saved a wretch like me... I was lost but now I'm found, was blind but now I see"..

    A Gratefully Recovering Alcoholic.

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    1. A Gratefully Recovering Alcoholic the decision we make in Step Three is to no longer lead a self directed life but to live a life, a real life, directed by God. The experience of that in the present is one of greater awareness of the power that my human nature possess and the acceptance that the surrender is an ongoing process. Anyone who says that time doesn't matter in AA doesn't have any time...Thank you...Armand

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